Short description
Why do many women still get married? Why do others not? Why do couples still marry in church in an age of unbelief? Taking up where Hidden Lives left off, these are some of the questions the author addresses, through the stories of three women who have long fascinated her.
Long description
In 1848, Mary Moffatt became the devoted wife of the missionary and explorer, David Livingstone in Africa and it eventually killed her. A hundred and twelve years later, in 1960, Margaret Forster married her high school sweetheart, Hunter Davies in a London Register Office and forty years later, they are still married. Between those two marriages and their experience is a huge gulf during which time women's lives changed immeasurably, and the notion of marriage evolved through the other two marriages here under the spotlight, that of the unconventional Fanny Stevenson (wife of Robert Louis Stevenson) in the late 19th century and across continents, and of our own charismatic 20th century Jennie Lee (wife of Aneurin Bevan) a politician in her own right. But, curiously, some aspects and attitudes remained fixed and immutable and found an echo in Forster's own life. Have these fixed points finally shifted now, with a coming of the 21st century? What was and is now a good wife? Why do many women still get married? Why do others not? Why do couples still marry in church in an age of unbelief? Taking up where Hidden Lives left off, these are some of the questions of her own mother and grandmother, through the stories of three women who have long fascinated her. The emphasis is on aspects of these women's lives never focused on before, on the kind of personal and intimate and everyday detail which has intriqued and gripped readers of Forster's memoirs, biographies and fiction.
Review
Forster's literary reputation rests in part on her several biographies, so it is not surprising that she has chosen to explore what being a 'good wife' means - and if a woman should be a wife at all - by looking at the lives of three remarkable women, and then reflecting on each in turn in comparison with her own ideas and experience. Mary Moffat, married in 1845 to the famous explorer and missionary David Livingstone, carried her marriage 'to obey' to the extreme, journeying with her beloved husband in the most horrific of conditions, often pregnant and with small children. She was sent to Britain with the children in near destitution for four years, missing Livingstone dreadfully. Then Livingstone insisted on her accompanying him on his latest Zambesi expedition, which entailed her leaving the children, including her latest small infant, in Britain. Out there she died of some untreatable form of malaria. In Forster's reflections on this life, she feels that if she herself were torn between husband and young children, the latter would have to come first. Fanny Stevenson was a tough and ambitious American who had a history of independence as an estranged wife and mother of three children and had already had a shot at earning her own living before she met and fell in love with Robert Louis Stevenson. They were finally able to marry in 1880, and they spent much time travelling because of his ill-health. Fanny was very loving to his fond parents, so Forster reflects on the wifely roles of nursing, and relating to in-laws, giving examples from her own life. Jennie Lee was 25 when she entered Parliament in 1929, and mesmerized 'the entire male House of Commons'. She was in love with politics and had no intention of marrying or ever having children. (Forster thinks that wives have the 'right' to remain childless.) But she and her lover Nye Bevan needed to marry, otherwise gossip would damage both their careers. They were equals, and Jennie refused any of the traditional wifely roles - she brought her mother from Scotland to come and keep house. She soon saw that Nye had outstripped her, and when he became a Cabinet minister, the balance of the marriage changed, and she needed to protect him more - an aspect of marriage which doesn't appeal to Forster. In today's climate she would have preferred to be a 'partner' instead of a wife. This is an interesting and lively approach to a perennially fascinating subject, and the combination of biography and personal reflection ensures that it retains the reader's attention throughout. (Kirkus UK)